Ok- let’s take a reality check. How many of you are still following all of you New Year’s Resolutions? Um… not here. Every year, I play the game that we all fall into. I indulge on my time off during the holiday and then vow starting January 1 that I am going to CHANGE and finally get my budget on track, not eat carbs, cut down on my cocktails and workout twice a day. ( I already workout most days but that helps keep me from killing anyone). Then by January 2, I am already starting to make bargains and compromises. Each day I didn’t follow everything I promised the New Years God, I began to feel down and see the end goals further in the distance. “ I will start Monday”- Sound familiar.
But then around January 4th, I saw something that spoke to me. It was a different take on resolutions. Instead of making all these promises of what I was going to start doing or give up, I should reflect and focus on what I did well. Wait, what was that? Yes, reflect and focus on what you did well. This was a lightbulb or as Oprah would say, “Ah Hah” moment.
I wrote down things I thought I did well over the year. It ranged from topics like how I handled a difficult situation among two friends to realizing I am very good at even recognizing my mess ups in life so I can take ownership. More importantly it helped me realize that some of these positive things took time and I didn’t become good at them on a certain day or on command. So with that, I had to reflect and refocus on my 2018 resolutions. I still have the same intention of the goals for my original ones. But this new outlook was more of a strategic plan on how I would accomplish this and acknowledge that changes do not magically happen on January 1. Whew… what a relief. So now instead of worrying about how many days since Jan. 1 that I had been “good” or “on track”, I realized that every day can be January 1st.